Why I Write Romance

romantic couple

Those who know me well, family and friends who have been in my life for a long time, must be totally baffled by the fact that I write—of all things—romance. If I am being totally honest, I am baffled myself. Somebody asked me the same question the other day and I couldn’t give her an answer. I have always enjoyed a good mystery and I am pretty awesome when it comes to research (okay, I know I am tooting my own horn. Just go with it.) so I decided to do a little digging into my own motives and drive.

As a child I was always told I was “cold”. I don’t think there was a single person, my parents included, who thought I was a warm, fuzzy child. My sister was sweet and loving and everybody loved her. I was prickly, reserved, and not a fan of hugs and kisses. I was always compared to my namesake, a paternal great-aunt who was the family matriarch, famous for her Ice-Queen attitude. I have since then realized things are not always what they seem and that the so-called Ice-Queen was a great big softy inside. Like me she was a contradiction in terms. Paradoxically my intellectual, educated and down-to-earth aunt read romance after romance and wrote poetry.

I used to get upset when people told me I was just like her, but not anymore. I think I understand her much better than she ever allowed anyone to. Since I am a lot more like her than I care to admit, getting to understand her helped me understand myself. My aunt was very reserved, very “proper” and collected. I don’t think I ever saw her losing her temper even in a house full of boys. Unable to have children, she adopted four nephews and one niece when their mother fell ill and passed away. Later she also brought home my young widowed grandma and her two boys. I can only imagine the ruckus having two sons myself. It was a full-house any time of the day, any day of the week.

Being a modern woman, she played sports, worked full time, and married in her early thirties. Her husband was a handsome man who enjoyed his social life and worked for a newspaper. Their relationship remains a mystery to this day. Rumors of his “indiscretions” were not uncommon. However, he seemed genuinely fond of her and I truly believe she died of a heartbreak shortly after he passed away. My writer’s imagination has created a whole lot of scenarios for their “love story”.

Through it all she was—or seemed—detached, cold. Everyone around had to abide by very strict rules of conduct, but she also shared her love for literature, history and the arts with all around her. I owe her my love for the arts; painting, dance, music, reading, and of course writing. She introduced me to opera, ballet and New Year’s Day was not a holiday unless we sat around her massive table watching the New Year’s Concert broadcasted live from Vienna, Austria.

Although I grew to love everything beautiful and peaceful, life showed me that, often, happy endings only happen in stories. I left my country and my family to follow a romantic dream and quickly found out that in between the happy days there were a lot of unhappy ones, filled with loneliness and sadness. I quickly learned that Prince Charming is often just a flawed man with annoying quirks and irritating habits. I found out that loving someone does not mean you share the same tastes, the same hobbies. I realize now that men in general are not good listeners (go figure) and that your children do not always turn up the way you had hoped. There was illnesses and heartache. I learned that love and dedication are not always enough for a marriage to survive. In short, life often sucks big time.

Reading and writing romance offers me an escape from the ugliness of this world, a way to make my heart sing and feel that warm fuzzy feeling inside that you felt with your first touch of the hands, your first kiss. It allows me to dream again if only for a moment. Just like my aunt, a closet romantic herself, I escape the disappointments of life by immersing myself in the goodness of a love story, the intense feelings of passion, the satisfaction of a happy ending. Romance is like a Vermeer; peaceful, beautiful, and glowing. What’s not to like?

That’s why I write romance even though people will tell you I am the least romantic person in the world. What about you? Why do you like romance? Or maybe you don’t. I would love to hear your thoughts.



by Ashelyn Drake

Our Little Secret FRONT COVER


Becca Daniels needs a passing math grade…but what she wants is to spend more time with Toby Michaels. 

The only problem is Toby is her best friend’s twin, and Tori has a very firm “no dating the brother” policy.

But Becca’s grade has hit rock bottom and she needs a tutor. It just so happens that Toby is a math genius and more than happy to help—lucky her! Working so closely with the handsome, popular Toby, Becca can’t hide her attraction, and it soon becomes obvious he feels the same way.

Becca doesn’t want to lose her best friend, but she isn’t willing to give up Toby either. 

At first, sneaking around is fun, stealing kisses right under Tori’s nose. But things take an ugly turn when Toby’s ex-girlfriend Meredith catches them together. Meredith demands Toby take her back and restore her reputation, or she’ll tell Tori their secret. Do they dare tell Tori the truth? Or would that just make things worse?

Surrounded by secrets and knee-deep in deception, something has to give… 

How far is Meredith willing to go to keep Toby and Becca apart?

And how much is Becca willing to risk to keep… 

Our Little Secret?


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Ashelyn Drake is a New Adult and Young Adult contemporary romance author. While it’s rare for her not to have either a book in hand or her fingers flying across a laptop, she also enjoys spending time with her family. She believes you are never too old to enjoy a good swing set and there’s never a bad time for some dark chocolate. She also writes speculative fiction under the name Kelly Hashway. She is represented by Sarah Negovetich of Corvisiero Literary Agency.

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I feel I have been letting my wonderful follower (yes, you again) down. Life has been just a little crazy with preparing my novel for publication, writing my current WIP and of course the everyday life that can really get in the way of your writing, right? I haven’t forgotten you faithful reader and I will be back soon with more of my (not-so) wonderful adventures on planet Earth. But for now I wanted to share the first official sign that my book is not a myth and that it is indeed going to be published soon (January); my official blurb. Enjoy (I am actually hoping you totally salivate over it and write yourself a note to read my book as soon as it is released)!

Closet Blurb

When I Remember You by Rosa Sophia

Happy Cover Reveal Day to ROSA SOPHIA!

When I Remember You releases NOV. 17th through Limitless Publishing!

Nina Archer is back in Florida, discovering a love for life she never had before…
Things are finally looking up for Nina. Her mother is sober again, she shares an apartment with her best friend, and she’s training for her first marathon. She’s even sending out queries for her first novel, though she doubts anyone would publish something by a nobody like her. But memories of her late father, while painful, give her the strength to persevere.
When Wes Ladner shows up on race day, he almost stops Nina in her tracks…
Wes is back in Florida to work on his new book after months of traveling, and Nina isn’t sure what to do about their intense friendship. Making love on the beach was easy for them, but committing to a relationship doesn’t seem possible, and Wes appears to be carrying an emotional burden he hadn’t before.
Nina settles into a rhythm and finds her place in life but struggles to understand what she and Wes have taught each other through their passionate intimacy.
Is it possible for Nina and Wes to move beyond friendship, or is it their destiny to part ways and carry only precious memories on separate paths to fulfillment?
★★ Meet the author: ROSA SOPHIA ★★

Rosa Sophia is a novelist and full-time editorial consultant. With a degree in Automotive Technology, she adores writing and editing as well as fixing cars. Rosa is also a crazy cat lady in training, and currently divides her time between South Florida and Pennsylvania.